About Recommendations

Note: I originally wrote this post several months ago, apparently shortly after seeing Frozen and experiencing people on Facebook talking about certain YA books. It doesn’t feel as relevant now, and I edited some of it to reflect more current thoughts, but I thought it was time to get this out of my drafts! 

When I had not been blogging for very long, I would see survey questions or a Top 10 Tuesday topic that seemed to focus on what books you recommend to others. And since my reading habits kicked into overtime when I started blogging, before then, I did not feel I had a ton to recommend. And even if I had feelings about the books I read, they seem to have intensified (a lot) over time as I connect with more and more bloggers.

Why can’t my Facebook friends understand my feelings?! When I see they’re reading Divergent I want to say, “OK, I was fine with the end, but you might not be. And quite frankly, even though I actually liked Allegiant, I still think the series is no where near Hunger Games level, so don’t expect that.” (BTW, I think one day I’ll have to write a post about why I would have been bitterly disappointed with The Hunger Games trilogy if it ended the way Allegiant did… it was interesting revelation I had.)

Or when I see they’re reading The Maze Runner I want to be like, “Hey, just stop reading that. No seriously. It’s only going to get more convoluted. Your questions will never be answered! Your favorite character may die and then get completely forgotten by the main character like he never cared about that person!” (Oh, is that just me?) “Just stop!”

dont-you-dareOr when they are looking for something to read, I want to scream…

READ THE LUNAR CHRONICLES. AND FOR DARKNESS SHOWS THE STARS/ACROSS A STAR-SWEPT SEA. AND THE GRISHA TRILOGY. The amazing books that bloggers know and love, but aren’t hyped up in the stores.

I’ll might tell them, depending, but I do try to avoid yelling.🙂

spirit-fingersAnd at the bookstore when there is an endcap that says, “If you like The Hunger Games you’ll like Delirium or Under the Never Sky,” I want to hide the books. You may not like Delirium of Under the Never Sky. I DNF’d both of them (yes, I know that’s not common, but I stand by my choices completely because they weren’t for me; I might still be willing to try something else by these authors though). But they are really NOT on the same level as The Hunger Games, and I think most people who like the books will even agree with that.

I think I’m starting to feel book nerd problems more than I ever had before.

anna-snowI know everyone likes different things. I have to realize that no matter how strongly I feel about a book, others may (gasp!) not agree with me! They may love The Maze Runner trilogy and hate Cinder (wait… can anyone hate Cinder?). It’s just my blogging is apparently starting to spill over to my personal life.

Do you struggle with giving your opinion too freely about books you loved or didn’t to real life friends? 

23 thoughts on “About Recommendations

  1. Most of the time I read different genres than the people around me which helps a lot. I used to recommend titles more often but I would always feel disappointed if the recipient of that recommendation didn’t love the book as much as I did. These days I try to funnel that through our blog and when I talk to friends I try not to recommend based on what I like but I focus on spotting readalikes.

    • I don’t think most of my friends outside of blogging consistently read YA, but some of them will pick up the ones that are getting recognized for being made into movies, and I’m thinking those aren’t necessarily the best books out there! But yes, it’s very wise to keep in mind what the person might like, not just what you like.

  2. hahaha I really love this post! Especially the GIFs😀

    I definitely have this problem sometimes. Not many of my real-life friends read, but just in general I want to recommend certain books to THE WORLD and tell others not to pick up certain other ones. Like The Maze Runner. ugh! So glad I didn’t try to finish the series after reading the first book. And OH MY GOSH you DNFed Under the Never Sky, too?? I seriously thought that I was the only one who didn’t love that book!

    This is a really great post…sometimes I forget that the books we consider “the big ones” in the YA book blogging community aren’t necessarily the books that are most popular/a lot of other people are reading. Like I’m sure that there are people out there who haven’t even heard of the Grisha trilogy, and that is so confusing to me! Because around here it’s EVERYTHING.

    • And I thought I was the only one who didn’t like Under the Never Sky and I was going to get hateful comments! OK, maybe not hateful… when I reviewed it on here people actually seemed really amused by my comments, even if they liked the book themselves. I just could not get into it at all!

      And yes, when I go to Barnes and Noble sometimes I’m like, “Why isn’t (name latest big YA book on the blogsphere) even on the shelf?!”

    • Ha ha, I think the reason I didn’t DNF I think is because a friend loaned it to me and I though that was her way of recommending it. But when I told her later how frustrating it was she was like, “Yeah, I wasn’t sure what to think of it either.” Then I was like, what the heck?! Why’d you loan it to me then?!

  3. This is so true! I hate how the books in Barnes and Noble that are featured and on display are just The Hunger Games, Divergent, and then that one where everyone is trapped in a mall with a disease (too lazy to look up the name). It really sucks. I would’ve never known about Cinder if I never joined the book blogging community😦

    • I don’t think I’m familiar with the books about people being trapped in a mall with a disease! But yes, The Hunger Games, Divergent, and other books with movie adaptations run quite rampant in the chain bookstores!

  4. I guess that’s one of the easy things about not having friends who read. I never have to recommend a book or ‘judge’ them for a book they pick up. Sometimes my sister reads and I always push books on her, haha, and most of the times she likes them🙂

    • These aren’t friends I interact with much, and the ones I’m closer to either don’t really read or read completely different stuff, but it still can be stressful for some reason just when I see a Facebook status and want to give a recommendation!

    • I do what Mel does, push the books on my sister! Haha. Though I do a have a few friends who read. Once in a while we talk books but the books that overlap naturally end up being the bestsellers, so they’re not all bad. But I agree, there are books that are so massively popular in the book blogosphere, I forget that outside of it, those books aren’t that popular. At least those friends who want to read something different do come to me to ask for recommendations that go beyond bestsellers, so that’s always wonderful🙂

  5. I tend not to give recommendations unless another blogger asks. Giving recommendations to people who don’t read much is dodgy as you have nothing to base it off. Now if someone can tell me a few books they love and a few they hate, then it all gets easier.
    Love the gifs!

  6. Every book I recommend, my sister does when she comes down for the hols. Since that’s the only time she gets to read all year, she takes anything I give her :p

    People on my Facebook go crazy over The Fault in Our Stars and I’m thinking “You have read Cinder/ Daughter of Smoke and Bone”

    And the whole relating reads at bookstores, it happens a lot! If you liked Hunger Games, you’ll love Divergent. But that’s never the case. I know people who hate the Hunger Games(hype victims), but loved Divergent!

    • Wait, there are people who hate The Hunger Games but love Divergent?! O.O I’ve never met this people before, which is probably good because I don’t know what I’d say to them!

  7. I love your post and the comments, so good to hear what people have to say and recommend. I have a daughter that is still in the Vampire stage, I get it, but it’s not my favorite. I was able to find a good one, Blood Orange Soda by James Larranaga, his site is foreverlands.com if anyone is looking for a good YA read. I totally get what you all are saying, it’s hard to stop them sometimes from reading what “everyone” is reading, but I can get good recs and point my girl is a good direction.

  8. The Hunger Games is one of my all time favourite series, but I did read the whole Under the Never Sky trilogy and loved it almost as much or even as much as THG. They’re completely different books though, I wouldn’t necessarily say that you would love one if you loved the other.

    I definitely have more recommendations and opinions on books since I started blogging. I have discovered so many more books and favourites through blogging. I have bought way more books for people as well, especially for my cousin and sister, as I have found more and more books that I think they would love. I haven’t been wrong yet, which amazes me.

    • I know a lot of people love both, but just because you love one definitely does not mean you’ll love another! Sometimes people don’t even love books within the same series by the same author, so it’s pretty hard to predict these things! It’s awesome though that you’re having such success with your sister and cousin!

  9. Frozen gifs!!

    There’s definitely a sort of esoteric knowledge about books, especially YA books, once you delve into the book blog community. You learn about the cool books people haven’t heard of or have a different perspective because maybe they don’t know that this is totally a rip off of that – because they haven’t read that.

    I like that, though, because then if someone has different reading tastes than me but still asks for a recommendation I can say, “Well, you’re tastes are a lot like this blogger I know and they loved this.” and kind of leverage other people’s reading to give broader and more diverse recommendations🙂

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